The common mistake parents make

What do you think is one of the common, if not the greatest, mistake parents make in their relationship with their children? For me, it is when parents consider themselves to be old, mature, and experience, as if they already know everything in life. Technically, there is nothing wrong with acknowledging that, as parents, we have grown with the years in age, maturity, and experience. But to use this as unbending basis to be always right in debates or discussions with our children because we see them as still young, immature, and inexperienced is an entirely different story.

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There are parents who, when they have visitors, harshly tell their children to go to their rooms or play outside because the topics are bound to be exclusive to adults (that is, in age). Have you ever thought about your children’s feelings? Doing this can make your children consciously and unconsciously feel rejected and get hurt every time. I’m sure that allowing your children within your circle of friendly discussion can also make them grow through observation and respectful participation.

Let me tell you, if you just listen, really listen carefully, to what your child has to say, you will be surprised and impressed by the wealth of wisdom behind his or her own experiences. This is my way of saying that you should not underestimate your children and what they can do. I discourage baby-talking them. Start treating them like adults and you will be amazed at how fast they can develop their original and latent skills, talent, and personality. Let me remind you that you have not yet seen the best of your children. What you are seeing now is just the tip of the iceberg. The key to good parenting is to give them utmost acceptance, respect, and trust. This is the true and real art of parenting.

Here is something that may provoke your thoughts and probably will change your ideas and perspective about the parent-child relationship. Your bodies and age may be old and your children’s bodies and age may be young, but their souls might be much older than yours. It is just a matter of time before their brains become fully developed and can absorb the power of their souls. This is why do not be surprised if one of these days you realize that they have become much smarter than you. Have you heard others–relatives, neighbors, friends–praise your children, wondering how they could think, act, and talk in a mature way.

What are your memorable experiences raising your children?

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Are you a good parent? (Part 1)

When you look at your children, I am sure there is an unexpected moment in a day when you wonder if you are a good parent. You may be too busy with taking care of your children and their needs to think about your answer to the question, “Am I a good parent?” The word good is subjective and answers can be based on your experiences. Many of us are inclined to raise our children based on how our own parents raised us because, at the end of the day, we think that through our parents, we came out okay. Naturally, we wish the same for our own children.

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If you are one of these parents, I am going to challenge your perspective. Some of the methods of our parents when they raised us involve them being almost always right. Such attitude, for me, is a manifestation of ego. When such attitude kicks in within family gatherings that are as simple and important as eating meals together, children will not be able to practice the values of trust and openness. In place of these values is the children’s fear of being wrong.

This brings me to one of the lessons I learned while looking after my children: Obedience out of fear overshadows respect, and suppression of feelings sometimes becomes an alternative that children take rather than self-expression. This is either a trigger to or a by-product of parent-children conflicts and problems. Humility for parents is authority in disguise.

So instead of asking yourself whether or not you are a good parent, ask yourself whether you are instilling fear or cultivating self-expression among your children. Parents are simply stewards, instruments and trustees. This means that God merely entrusted our children to us, and our roles are just to love and serve them, no more, no less. Our responsibility is to provide our children with all their physical, material, emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs for them to become good citizens of God and good citizens of our country and the world.

If you are instilling fear in your children’s hearts, it is not too late to make a good turnaround through the these methods: thoughts of love, words of wisdom, eyes of trust, ears of tolerance, hands of gentleness, elbows of jest and lightness, finger of discipline, legs of patience, feet of empathy, belt of protection, stick of flexibility, and broom of humility.

And also, instead of asking yourself whether or not you are a good parent, ask yourself if you are being a responsible steward, instrument and trustee that God appointed you to be for your children. Are you?

More Thoughts and Deeper Reflection on the 5 Essential Ingredients of Success

Who wouldn’t want to be successful? I’m sure all of us aspire to be successful in one way or the other in the fields we decide to put our minds on. This is why I was motivated to share with you last time what I think are the five essential ingredients of success. Now I’m going to engage in a deeper reflection on these five ingredients, which I hope you will use in turn to reflect on your personal metaphorical success map, where you are now and where plan to be in the future.

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Patience

Good and positive things are not always attained immediately and automatically. They require time and process. Sometimes we have to act fast, but there are times that we also have to wait. Waiting involves patience. What we miss sometimes are the spiritual beliefs that we can get while waiting. Relax, do something productive while waiting. It shields you from irritation and prevents you from getting angry. Here’s my observation: When you use force on something you want to happen, I think the results would be half-baked, so our feeling of accomplishment is not complete.

Detachment

Our attachment or desire for the result limits the success of the end result of the work that we perform, as it takes away the purity of our intention in performing the action. We can let the situation go and allow the people to be. Why do we have to hurt ourselves by attaching ourselves to certain people and certain situations? Being detached means being carefree about an outcome but not careless, knowing that we have done our best.

Partnership

We can only effectively cooperate with people and also win their cooperation if we will not only recognize their roles but also respect them and the tasks why are assigned to do. We also need to know when to step in and move forward and when to wait and move backward. At the same time, we need to learn and remind ourselves to offer the fruits of our labor to God. And He will certainly be please with what we do.

Balance

It is true that there is absolutely nothing we can reap from worry, except negative energy. The word itself–worry–is already a waste of time. What do we really worry about? Worry is uselessly thinking of something that is not happening yet. What comes net after worrying? Fear, right? This is why balance is important. Stay content without becoming complacent. Don’t go against nature by worrying. Nature offers us balance; we must strive to preserve it.

Time

Both the clock and the watch are just there to represent and reflect the passage of events and experiences. Truly, time is life. Time is us. If time is life, then we do not want to waste it, much less lose it. We are all supposed to be the masters of time, not slaves of it. We cannot go against time without suffering the consequences of our decision to go against it. The first physical manifestation of going against time is pressure. Remember that there is no pleasure in pressure.

These are my reflections on the five essential ingredients of success. I hope you can share your reflection and thoughts with me, too.

5 Essential Ingredients of Success

Last time, I shared some secrets to a happy and peaceful life. For others, their idea of happiness is success in the field they are in. I can understand this. When you are young, you are filled with drive, passion and motivation to pursue success because you find success as essential to your happiness. I went through this phase as well. Within my years of hard work that resulted to the successful growth and positive development of my company as well as improvement of self, I learned five essential ingredients of success. These are my reflections, which I hope you can learn from.

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Patience

It is the willing to work with the process of growth. The act of waiting is a process that creates a space for time, for ideas, for good experiences, and for God to come and occupy that space. You will be amazed that what comes is sometimes much better than what we are waiting for. Learn to wait.

Detachment

Have you tried to detach from stressful situations and found yourself feeling gratified because of it? If yes, then you’re doing well. Achieving good results comes from learning to let people and things go and to let situations be. This is achieved through detachment. We must certainly do our assigned task but we should not become so attached to the “doing” that we sometimes forget the “being.”

Partnership

For me, real success in what we do is always based on our partnership with people, with nature, and with God. In partnership, there is acceptance, respect, and trust, and this brings better relationships and success in whatever you do. Also, if we please God, instead of man who can expose us to unnecessary feelings of disappointment and rejection, then God will also be certainly pleased with us.

Balance

It is harmony and order. Balance also means to be lawful but not dogmatic, to be contented but not complacent, to be determined but flexible, and to always balance silence with sweet words.

Time

The last ingredient is time. Remember that time is a human creation. But time is not our master. We must be the masters of our time. We may subscribe to time management but we also practice mastery of time. Time has its own seasons and reasons, and there is great magic in understanding the mystery of time.

Do you have these five ingredients in your pursuit for success and happiness? What can you add to the list? I’ll be happy to hear from you! God bless!

Accepting the “Dualities” in Our Lives (Part 4 of My Secret to a Happy and Peaceful Life)

I am making a lengthy series of posts on karma because of how our thoughts and actions dictate the levels of energies and impacts of consequences in our lives. Many still fail to appreciate the truly heavy value behind the golden rule of treating others in the same way they want to treat them. This is why I continuously tell the people around me to be cautious and careful when entertaining wasteful and negative thoughts.

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Even thinking bad things about a person is a bad action in itself because this is what I would term as mental gossiping. Remember that we create karmic accounts and commit sin against that person. What makes it worse is that the person does not have the slightest idea what we are thinking. This is how we commit extra sins. To fulfil the goal of living a happy and peaceful life, I advise you to avoid this act.

Now, one of my recent posts is about the importance of thoughts in the philosophy of karma. In that post, I mentioned about the dualities in life-suffering and pleasure, tears and laughter, victory and defamation. Dualities come from our experiences and, as the old wisdom say, every experience is a teacher. It teaches us, for free at that, what life is and how to live it peacefully and happily.

After we accept this concept of dualities in our lives, the next challenge is how to sustain peace and happiness for a much longer period of time, regardless of our situation. How? The answer is equanimity, which is to remain stable and maintain happiness and self-respect in any and all situations, good or bad.

You may say it sound so easy when written down here, but to do it is hard. Indeed. What I want you to remember, thought, is that the whole world is connected by karma, and no one, including you, can live outside its reach. For every action, there is always an opposite and equal reaction. From birth to death, karma continues to affect each and every activity of human life. Health, wealth, happiness, relationships, and sorrow during the span of a lifetime are determined by one’s karma.

Does it sound complicated? To put is simply, we are responsible for our own actions. There’s another train of thought wherein actions produce unpredictable consequences and inescapable results but alterable effects. That’s right, but karma simply adjusts its effects to the rightful consequences. Punishments and rewards do not apply in this law. Therefore, it is simply a “meet your own self” situation, one in which we meet the consequences of our actions, in this lifetime or in the next. // By Juanito “June” Luna

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