Before I move forward to the fourth of the eight powers of managing the self and leading others, allow me to review and put forth additional insights to my latest reflection on the third power, which is the power to tolerate. You can check the links to direct you to the separate reflections:
- Power to Withdraw (Listening)
- Power to Pack Up (Availability)
- Power to Tolerate (Adaptability)
- Power to Adjust (Flexibility)
Last time, I emphasized how important tolerance is when we full engage with demanding situations and people who say and do things that stimulate our memories and emotions. But for me, this is always my biggest challenge in managing myself and leading our managers and employees. Sometimes, I become very impatient if our people cannot understand simple instructions. I forget that what is simple to me may be complicated for them. This happens when I fail to appreciate their uniqueness as human beings or fail to think that they are as good as I am or even better.
Through the power to tolerate, we have to be detached from the thoughts and feelings accompanying our reactions. If we are tolerant, we let our utmost sense of humility mold and shape us by allowing a situation to develop naturally and reacting like a bamboo tree, which bends in the storm but does not break, so strong but flexible enough to rise again when the storm is over.
Now, the fourth power, the power to adjust or flexibility, means the ability to expand and accept the presence, idea, and desires of others. Softness, flexibility, and the ability to adapt are qualities that help us reach our goals.
Flexibility is our ability to adjust with ease to the many personalities, conditions, and situations we face every day. In meetings and conferences, the mere presence of the people in front of us is more important than their ideas and opinions.
When we are flexible, we are able to face our daily challenges with ease. Then, our relationships with other people become very light and easy, which our families, friends, and even the organizations we belong to appreciate.
What makes our flexibility possible is our humility, which enables us to give way to others, to accept and work with their ideas. Humility allows us to keep our individuality, integrity, and self-respect, even when others make demands on us.
For me, flexibility requires the highest sense of humility and highest level of acceptability. Discipline needs also to be balanced with flexibility, not just in the workplace but also at home. As leaders, the daily challenge is to be strict in our implementation of rules and regulations but flexible in our approach.
//BY JUNE LUNA